Same Path Traveled Different Journey Part 8: the scary struggle

This past weekend was the Tactical Strength Challenge (TSC) a competition for your max deadliest, max reps of pull ups, and max kettlebell snatch in 5 min.  This is one of my favorite events of the year!  Instead of competing, I was able to be one of the officials at FUELhouse who was hosting it for their first time! Such a thrilling event!  It was full of anticipation, encouragement, and Halloween costumes.

Many of the competitors, it was their time participating (so exciting!).  It was amazing to watch each individual push past through the struggle to perform their best!  There were many surprising looks on the competitors’ faces as they out preformed their anticipated goal.  This is every Coaches’ dream!  Seeing their clients go beyond what they thought they were capable of doing!

Remembering back to my first TSC, I was so nervous going into the event.  I was scared of not being able to perform to the level of my goals and anxious for the outcome.  It wasn’t till my third TSC when I was able to accomplish this feeling of performing well past my anticipated goals.  But it was only a result of working with coaches to help me overcome my fears or what I like to call it  the “scary struggle.” In my case the dead-lift.

Yes, I am a personal trainer and I have a love-hate relationship with the dead-lift and I constantly have to work through this “scary struggle.”  We all have a love-hate o relationship with at least one of the lifts in the TSC (deadliest, pull-ups, and Kettlebell Snatch).  But when we overcome our fear, it is then we learn the art of struggling well!

As Alex Elle (author) puts it “I am thankful for my struggle because without it I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength”

No matter if you can dead-lift 300lb or 125lb, do 10 strict pull ups or hang for 10 sec, perform 100 snatches or 65 snatches within the five minute, we all have our own struggle. And a struggle is a struggle!  No matter what your fitness level may be.  We all struggle for one more rep. It is when we work through our struggle, we are able to produce our new found strength.

Keep the “scary struggle” alive! It is what keeps us moving towards the potential beyond our belief!

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Same Path Traveled Different Journey Part 5: Beast Mode ON/OFF

When you enter a gym or see advertisement for gyms or a workout, it is usually with BEAST MODE ON! Yeah lets get after it!  As a coach, it gives me chills when I am instructing a group of people beast modding it up and killing a workout!

 

There is nothing wrong with BEAST MODE ON! But there are times for BEAST MODE to be OFF.

 

Seattle is my HOMEO – Optimize

F – Frolic

F – Freely

In my case rest is not something I do not do very well and when I transition from a summer of water skiing to off-season training I usually go BEAST MODE ON all the way! Well as you can guess, out of excitement of being at a new gym, I rushed back to my kettlebell routines . . . and . . . my back pain has returned with a vengeance!

 

In the past, I would panic and start to worry what would my future look like if I am injured AGAIN! Saying things like “you are an idiot” and “you are a trainer you should know better, how could you let this happen AGAIN!” I would say these things over and over again beating myself up mentally. Little did I know I was creating a trap for myself by allowing the past to relive the future just because it felt like the past crept into the future . . .. But I invited it.

 

This time I knew exactly what I needed to do . . . Step away from the bells and most importantly turn BEAST MODE O.F.F. I am still learning the importance of transitioning from my sport to off-season training.   So I came up with this little acronym O.F.F. Optimize Frolic Freely to help me not beat myself up with injuries but find the joy in the struggle and  the opportunity it provides.   To Optimize Frolic Freely is to simple enjoy playing again y with a different movement, walking, or running, crawling for finding new toys to play with.   Though I am injured again this is an opportunity for me to explore something new! First you have to be Free to live Freely!

 

This time I am at peace with my flare up! The way I am able to be free is through knowing I am not the same person compared to my first injury. I am at complete peace with my past and keeping it my past. Even though it feels like I am reliving parts of my past, I come back to who I was during that time and the lesson learned leading me to who I am today. Most importantly I am look areas of what I can still improve my current status.  I have a positive outlook verse being Negative Nancy

 

It may feel like you are reliving parts of your past because you are right back where you started . . . it could be your 2nd or 5th transformation challenge, your 10th time running that mile loop, or your million visit to the gym with the wonder if you will ever get past this point? And maybe you have a similar voice like I had allowing the past to haunt the future.

 

I know this feeling and have asked this question of myself way to many times in relationship to my injuries. Instead of wondering if you will get past this point try turning BEAST MODE O.F.F and free yourself of your past expectations. Look and see if there are something different you can do through your journey towards your health.  Maybe it is helping someone in your challenge with an areas you struggle with or simply relating the struggle together.  Maybe it is time for a your mile long loop to be a different  loop or your exercise in the gym needs a little change to spice things up again!

 

Even though you may not be where you want to be try to optimize frolic freely!  Personally,  I want to be with my new training friends beast modding it up, instead I will be practicing BEAST MODE  O.F.F.  optimize frolic freely . . .   maybe trying something completely new  like Indian club!

 

Some days will be BEAST MODE ON and other days BEAST MODE O.F.F. Enjoy the journey and go out and play freely!

 

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

Same Path Traveled Different Journey Part 4: Houseless but not HOMEless

If we are Facebook friends (if not lets be friends!) you may have seen the post I wrote about a month ago. I didn’t know how else to start this post so I thought I would add a little more to who I am and this gypsy spirit of mine.

Many have said have I needed this time away and travel to do a little soul searching . . . or I have been asked what in the world am I doing with my life?

The best answer I can give is I am being a gypsy. As a gypsy, she knows who she is and who she wants to become. Seattle is my HOMEIt is through the journey she takes steps closer to the women she knows she is created to be. She is not searching for her soul for it is her soul that is leading her down this wild adventure that she can only travel. So what may have looked like a little soul searching is by far what I have been doing these last couple of months. Being this gypsy girl, I am chasing my dreams and enjoying the journey.

I have not been doing any soul searching but I have been searching, I have been wandering with purpose, wondering where do I fit in this dynamic world and how to share my passions?

Coble Ski School is one place where I feel I can fully embrace my crazy spirit to water ski. When I am there I have this pull to be part of the health industry and fitness. During my time at Coble Ski School even I consider this place home, I longed for something more.

Once I was back in Seattle, I joined an amazing company Athleta, empowering women to be fit and fashionable. Being the athlete and gym rate, I usually don’t have time to go shopping. There the women helped me embrace my style as an athlete and as a woman. Even though this was a short chapter to my story, I am grateful for what it taught me.

Women need women.

During past 8 years I have been in many cases the only female. Through college I worked at all boys camp (more on that later). Post college I was the only full time female trainer at the gym. Then during my free time, I found myself water skiing but again surrounded by men! It wasn’t till this year I realized I needed more women in my life. Women like my mother, my sisters, and women like Rachael (see previous post) who embraces each other to be each other’s best! Whether that is through fashion, or at the gym.

Knowing I belong in fitness I started looking or “wandering” to find a place where we would embrace each other! Talking to many people throughout the Seattle area I was able to find my TRIBE at FUELhouse! Fuelhousegym.com

It is a team of amazing women coaching the art of living a healthy lifestyle. I have only been there very little this past month and I can’t believe I found my tribe! Working with women who have the similar philosophies on training and nutrition is so uplifting knowing I am not the only one who has these beliefs.   I have already learned a lot from each one and I am excited for our journey together!

Admit it or not we are all wanders, looking for our tribe. You don’t have to travel across the country like me; you could be driving to and from work or picking up your kids, but still wondering where do you fit in this world. The only way I was able to find my tribe was trying different work environments on and seeing how they fit. But to know if it is a good fit for you, you need to know who you are and your beliefs.

A tribe is a group of people with a common interest like: exercise, religion, gaming, s etc. Once you have found this common interest it unites you and the group as one creating an amazing community.

My gypsy spirit lead me to my tribe and I am excited to have found my home.

Do you have your tribe?

smart goal setting gone wrong . . . Use F.E.A.R.

As a trainer I always encourage my clients to use S.M.A.R.T. to formulate their goals.  Even for my personal physical goals I have used these “smart” goals.  Smart goals are great and I will continue to use them in my career for both clients and for my personal purposes.  But it wasn’t till I wanted more in life I had to use F.E.A.R. to understand how to formulate a life of my dreams.

Focus

Energy

Attitude

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Focus ~ Goals need Focus! Focus of a sniper instinct.  Instead of dreaming of goals, focus creates opportunities to live out the goals.  Discover your goals then focus in on them just like a photographer focuses on an object.

Energy ~ Allowing your passion to fuel you energy will direct your actions to take the right baby steps toward your dream-ful goals.

Attitude ~ Positively, Smile, Laugh!  Life is never as plan! Learning to laugh and smile will help your perspective with your goals.  Being positive in life will  keep the momentum moving in the right direction.

Resilient ~ Self doubt will always creep in if you allow it.  Having a resilient spirit over rules this self doubt. Resilient is demonstrated every minute every moment of each day.

I had to look Fear in the face to be able to take this next step to achieve the life of my dreams.  My passions of life have directed me to make this move for Orlando, Florida.  Leaving all my family, all my friends, and all my co-workers/clients has been one of the most hardest decision in my life. For these people are the ones who have all taught me how to live out my F.E.A.R.s.  Out of gratitude for all they have taught me, I wish I could take everyone with me on this journey. Taking this first baby step (putting my two week notice), I realize we all have very different dreams, and goals that will lead us down different paths.  Theses goals and dreams will strengths us to be the best version we are meant to be. So as I make this jump across the country, I encourage you use F.E.A.R. to create the life you where created to live.

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Goals – Turkish Get Up

A goal can be defined as the result or achievement toward which effort is directed; aim; end.

Goals are used in many areas of life and are very helpful to improve the quality of life.  There are many key concepts to setting and achieving goals (read New years 2013 post for Smart Goals).  However the main key I have found to be successful with conquering goals is the power of will and daily belief.  No matter how long it may take you to accomplish your goals the fight to continue the path towards them may be less traveled, may be hard, and may seem impossible at times, but the power of will and belief will always lead you a step closer.  No matter how long it may take to accomplish your goals, never give up.  Daily you have a choice to take a step closer to your goals.

Willard 24kg TGU

Last year I had a goal to be able to do a Turkish Get Up, not only do Turkish Get Up but do it with a 24 kg Kettlebell.  At that time it seemed impossible since I could barely accomplish one with a shoe on my hand.  Yet I did not give up on my goal.  It took a full year of training daily and consistently practicing the get up.  It was an honor to  able to accomplish this goal with my good friend and Co-worker CJ Erkisonon on his last day at PRO Sport Club.  Thank you CJ for you help and support I could not have done this without your expertise. Clink on the link for the video.

New Years 2013

2013 First Sunset
2013 First Sunset

It has been almost a full month since the New Year’s Eve, where many of us make resolutions in hopes for a better year than before. With all the thought put into these goals/resolutions, it is easy to forget.  Here are some tips I have found to help me continue to work towards my goals.

1. Tell as many people about your goals.  You will be surprised how many people will want to help.

It is such a refreshing feeling when you have a support system helping you toward your goals.

2.  Create self accountability, write your goals down with a timeline, having a specific time of the year you want to achieve these goals.

This will make you work daily toward your goals when you know there is only a certain amount of  time to achieve them.

3. Once written your goals down, copy them and place them everywhere. Seeing your goals multiply times throughout the day will help you to not forget. 

I like putting pictures of places I hope to compete on the background of my phone or desktop of my computer.  Seeing these places daily helps me stay motivated to continue to work hard.

Hope these tips help everyone with their New Year Resolutions.  Happy New Year from Seattle 

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3. . .2. . .1. . . Happy New Year